Why Do We Self-Sabotage? EFT, Nervous System Safety & Trauma Responses with Carol Look

Notes from the Edge•4 de septiembre de 2026•00:30:31•

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What if the behavior you’re trying hardest to get rid of was once the very thing that helped you survive?

Carol Look is a psychotherapist and founding EFT Master who has spent decades helping people understand the emotional patterns underneath self-sabotage, and why lasting change often begins with asking what the behavior is protecting us from.

In this episode of Notes From the Edge, Carol and Lisa Lacy explore the idea that the problem was once the solution. Addiction, procrastination, people pleasing, overworking, staying invisible, and even creating chaos can serve a purpose when the nervous system believes they are keeping us safe.

Carol explains why we are wired for safety before success, and why someone can consciously want more visibility, healthier relationships, greater success, or a completely different life while unconsciously pulling themselves backward when the next level doesn’t feel safe.

Lisa shares her own experience of appearing highly successful while privately unraveling, using alcohol to avoid painful emotions, and later discovering how uncomfortable peace and stillness could feel after years of chaos. They also talk about functional freeze, grief, hypervigilance, the importance of mentorship, learning to regulate reactivity, and what becomes possible when we stop asking, “What is wrong with me?” and start asking, “Why am I doing this, and what is it protecting me from?”

Carol also shares how growing up in an alcoholic family shaped her tendency to take care of everyone around her, how that survival skill eventually became an asset in her work, and why learning to extend that same care toward herself changed everything.

In this episode:

Why self-sabotage may actually be a protective response
Nervous system regulation and why safety comes before success
Fear of success, visibility, and “up-leveling”
Why procrastination can have an emotional payoff
Addiction as a way of anesthetizing difficult emotions
EFT tapping and Emotional Freedom Techniques
Trauma responses, hypervigilance, and emotional patterns
Why peace and stillness can initially feel uncomfortable
Functional freeze and appearing capable while internally checked out
Grief, emotional avoidance, and learning to feel again
People pleasing and taking care of others as survival strategies
Why changing your own reactivity can change your relationships
Gratitude, emotional well-being, and Carol’s Yes work
The value of mentorship and support in personal growth
Why healing doesn’t mean life stops being difficult
The power of stillness, space, and finally hearing yourself

Learn more about Carol Look and her work:

www.carollook.com

Learn more about Lisa Lacy and Notes From the Edge:

www.lisalacy.com

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