Why We Circle Change (And How to Finally Step Through) | John R. Miles - EP 756
Descripción del Episodio
Does it ever feel like you’re waiting for your own life to start?You’re sitting in your car at the end of the day, staring at the front door, realizing you have to "gear up" just to walk inside. You’ve become a world-class manager of a life you’ve stopped inhabiting. You’re winning the efficiency game, but you’re losing the human one.In this episode of Passion Struck, John R. Miles explores the psychology of resistance and the difficult move from utility to aliveness. He identifies why we choose the "known hell" of burnout over the "unknown heaven" of presence. Drawing on recent conversations with shadow-work expert Keila Shaheen and life-design pioneers Bill Burnett and Dave Evans, John explains how to break the "identity handcuffs" that tie our sense of worth to our productivity.This isn't about working harder—it's about the literal, physical courage it takes to cross the threshold from being a provider to being a presence. It’s time to stop circling the wall and finally step through the door.Passion Struck is the #1 personal growth podcast dedicated to human flourishing and the science of mattering.Check the full show notes here:Explore the daily reflection guide for this episode at:Thank You to Our Sponsors. Limited Time Offer – Check out Function Health—160+ lab tests a year for $365. Join at https://www.functionhealth.com/tcm/passion or use gift code PASSION25 for a $25 credit toward your membership.Connect with John
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In this episode, John discusses:
- The Safety of the Squeeze: Why our nervous systems prefer the predictable exhaustion of the grind over the perceived threat of stillness.
- The Identity Handcuffs: How we’ve anchored our self-worth to our "utility" and why being needed is not the same as being known.
- The Grief of the Machine: Acknowledging the loss that occurs when you let the "super-producer" version of yourself die so the person can emerge.
- The Five-Second Threshold: Understanding the physical gap between knowing you should change and actually moving your hand to do it.
- Transition Rituals: How to use tiny, physical anchors—like touching a doorframe—to tell your nervous system that the manager is checking out.
- Reclaiming Agency: Why crossing the threshold is a private, quiet decision to stop seeking light from external approval.
- The Floor Beneath Your Feet: A sixty-second practice to shift from maintaining a structure to actually living within it.
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- Children’s Book — You Matter, Luma: https://youmatterluma.com/
- Substack: https://www.theignitedlife.net/
Support the Movement: https://startmattering.com/. Every human deserves to feel seen, valued, and like they matter. Wear it. Live it. Show it.
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Connect with John
- Website: https://johnrmiles.com
- Book John to Speak: https://johnrmiles.com/speaking/
- Substack: https://www.theignitedlife.net/
- Children’s Book — You Matter, Luma: https://youmatterluma.com/
Support the Movement: https://startmattering.com/. Every human deserves to feel seen, valued, and like they matter. Wear it. Live it. Show it.
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